My last post was discussing risky play, the types of play that make up risky play and why they are important. I promised a second post on rough and tumble play specifically, so here it is!
Rough and tumble play is a subtype of risky play that includes:
It is spontaneous and fun! This type of play, unlike some of the other risky play, is often done with both peers and parents/adults.
I believe this type of play is happening less and less, with parents/educators worried this type of play can get out of hand.
Often rough and tumble play is misinterpreted by adults as aggression and is discouraged. It is interesting, however, to note that most children, even ones with learning disabilities, can distinguish the difference between rough and tumble play and aggression. Research also shows that rough and tumble play rarely turns into real fighting (less than 1% of the time).
Why is it important?
From a physical standpoint, rough and tumble play helps build strength, improves gross motor skills, improves hand eye coordination, increases flexibility and is good cardiovascular work.
It also provides a ton of other developmental benefits!
Socially, children learn to adjust to changing social situations.
Emotionally, it helps develop self-regulation and compassion.
Cognitively, it assists with problem solving skills and behaviour correction in order to remain in the group of play.
Differences between Parents
Moms and dads typically engage in play differently with their children, regardless of the child’s gender.
Mom’s play tends to be more cautious, as mothers use more language and often use objects to engage in pretend play.
Dad’s play tends to be more physical, unpredictable and dads use less language (aka more rough and tumble).
As parents/adults what is our role?
Our role is, ultimately, to support our childrens development. With respect to rough and tumble play, we need to ensure our children are getting enough.
That may mean taking a step back when children are engaged with their peers in this kind of play and, instead of stopping it, simply ensure that it remains safe (i.e. the play space in clear of hazards and everyone is enjoying playing).
A good general rule is “If the smiles stop, the play stops”. It also means that we likely need to challenge ourselves to explore different types of play with our children, even if it’s outside our own comfort zone.
Lastly, the most important thing is to remember to have fun!